We as mothers are putting our own fears ahead of our daughters' well being, and we have to confront this crisis of confidence in order to offer our girls more grounding in sexual vitality than we were given by our own mothers. In not giving them the sexual information they need, and offering them that life long emotional connection to us, we do them a broader disservice than we imagine. Yesterday on Oprah sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman did an excellent and long overdue episode on helping mothers talk to their daughters about sexuality. Therapists, sex educators and researchers including myself find that, shockingly, our level of anxiety as mothers still keeps us from really educating our daughters about their bodies, desire and relationships.
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Thoughts From the Daughter of a Chinese Mother
Being the mother of a grownup son, it was very important for me to guide my little boy towards the fullness of manhood, to help him get in touch with that part of him that would allow him to have good relationships. First and foremost, it is important to teach your son about intimacy. No matter what your son achieves in life -- wealth, power, or material things -- if he can't be intimate, he will never find happiness. Intimacy requires the ability to open and commit, allowing the vulnerability of surrender. This requires suspending control, while merging with another emotionally.
One friend jokingly said the article had triggered flashbacks of traumatic, long-blocked memories. Here's how it usually goes: immigrant parents arrive in America and work tireless lives of sacrifice to open up every educational opportunity to their children, who repay their debt to their parents by becoming high-achieving attorneys and physicians and engineers. But the next generation of kids grow up spoiled by Western notions of self-actualization, and throw away generations of hard work to become idealistic artists, and organizers, and reporters. It's a familiar storyline for those acquainted with tired model minority stereotypes. Chua's method included strict rules--no sleepovers, no television, only straight As, mandatory musical instruments--and a sick mixture of threats and taunts.